Pre-marital counseling Some couples encounter signs before the marriage, that things are not going well. Frequent arguments, jealousy,
unrealistic expectations, and arguments about parenting. These arguments are never resolved. They simply go one
for a while, then are dropped....until the next time the topic comes up. Some think these problems will all go away
after they move in together, the wedding or the birth of their first child. They don't.
Problems that exist before the
marriage will get worse with time and increased intimacy. The events which usually strengthen the bond between the couple, only increase the sense of bondage and distrust. Couple counseling can clarify these problems and resolved them before the pull the
couple apart. Sometimes these problems just result from different expectations for the upcoming marriage or shared parenting
role. Sometimes the marriage results in one person leaving their career while another takes on more responsibility.
Sometimes, the extended family becomes overly involved in the couple's life.
Marriage Therapy Problems can arise early in the marriage or after many many years. Sometimes one person is unhappy and the other
is unaware of the problem. Sometimes a couple gets along well except when discussing certain topics: finances, aging
parents, parenting. The couple can get caught in an emotional dance where both repeat the same steps in a
dance that never ends. The best way to make changes within a marriage is to talk to an impartial therapist. She
can teach you about yourself and your partner. You can both learn to communicate clearly with each other in an assertive,
direct way. All couples argue. But, a disagreement needs a resolution that satisfies both. Divorces can
be avoided with counseling.
